Title: Love for Imperfect Things
Author: Haemin Sunim
Publisher: Penguin Random House
Genre: Non-Fiction (Self Help)
Firstly, I would really like to thank Penguin Random House for sending me this copy of Love for Imperfect Things in exchange for a post on their blog tour.
In a wonderful case of irony, I am highlighting my acceptance of my imperfection by admitting that I haven’t had chance to finish reading this book yet. So, this is less of a review and more of an overview of this beautiful self-help book.
What I can tell you is that this is the book I have been unconsciously searching for for some time. I don’t think a book has been quite so targeted towards me than Love for Imperfect Things, which is a novel about acceptance in a world of perfection. I have struggled with perfectionism since forever, and I suspect it will be an issue that I will continually battle against. I can’t completely remove my tendency to strive for perfection, to see everything I do as not quite good enough, and to berate myself for the smallest error or inaccuracy, but I can attempt to accept myself and realise that perfection is unattainable. It is an illusion.
People say that comparison is the thief of joy, but I have always thought that perfectionism is a close second. Comparison involves comparing yourself to other people and falling short. Perfectionism involves comparing your expectations of yourself with your actual self, and you can never quite live up to your own perception of how you should be. By definition, you are always going to be disappointed.
This book teaches you that being yourself is enough. More than enough. That whatever you are searching for, striving for, that will make you complete, is a falsehood. Because you are already a whole. Sunim uses beautiful prose, thoughtful quotes and stunning illustrations to argue that by being accepting of yourself, you can enjoy far more fulfilling relationships with yourself, your family and the people around you.
Love for Imperfect Things is a novel about learning to accept yourself for who you are, and provides strategies for recognising perfectionism and overcoming it. Each chapter focuses on a particular aspect of life where imperfection is necessary. Sunim looks at self-care, courage, healing, acceptance and more in this stunning self-help narrative. It is filled to the brim with compassion and understanding, is utterly moving and almost guaranteed to change your outlook. And if the writing isn’t beautiful enough, the illustrations throughout the book are absolutely stunning.
I am really looking forward to finishing this book (and providing a full review!), and learning about how to be more accepting of myself in defiance of perfection. Letting go of perfectionism is something I really need to work on, as I find it so easy to fall short of my own expectations, and to hold on to little insecurities and worries. I hope that after reading Love for Imperfect Things, I will be far more understanding and accepting of myself.
If you struggle to accept yourself, or constantly strive for the unattainable, then this book is for you. If you are looking for a way to develop your relationships with yourself, your family and your friends, then this book is for you. If you are looking for a beautiful read with wonderful prose and stunning illustrations, then this book is so you. Basically, this book is for you and you should definitely read it.
Have you read this one? Or any of Haemin Sunim’s other works?